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Saying farewell

Saying farewell

In the weeks before her departure, Christine has to make many practical arrangements for her journey. These include preparations at home, various administrative errands, and other tasks (e.g. visa, insurance, vaccinations, travel booking). Although Christine is very busy preparing for her mission, she and her husband Paul take time to talk about her upcoming deployment abroad and all their concerns about the changes they will have to make. Since they will not be able to see each other often, Christine and Paul are worried that their time apart will be a burden on their marriage and their relationship. To help with the farewell, they decide to throw a small party with Christine’s close friends and family.

Additional information

A mission abroad is not only a challenge for the person traveling abroad but also for the relatives who stay behind. The mission means a great readjustment for all those involved and can lead to different reactions. Despite all the preparations you are involved in, make sure that you take the time to speak openly with your partner and your relatives about feelings and apprehensions that they may have about the potential dangers of your deployment.

Involve family and friends

Involve other family members in the preparations for your separation and do something special together for your farewell (for example an excursion or a weekend trip). Consider together what positive opportunities this mission may offer, such as personal development, and remember that your deployment time within the mission is limited.

The perspective of your partner

For the partner staying at home, a broad social support network is especially important. Encourage your partner to actively plan social activities. Perhaps there are activities your partner has been interested in for a long time, but has never found the time for (a language course, learning a new instrument, a free online university course, a new sport, etc.). Before your departure, it is essential that you and your partner make contingency plans for family crises such as cases of illness that may occur at home, or emergencies during the course of your mission, such as injury or death. As your departure day draws near, your partner may show signs of irritation, impatience, or reduced intimacy. Accept these feelings and try to deal with each other in an open and caring manner.